I have been dating a man for 8 months now. We began having problems when he said he came across an old dating website that I had previously had an account on 10 months prior and never used it; the account had been closed for 9 months, but he said my picture came up as a possible match for him. Well, why in the heck was he trolling dating websites to begin with was my question?
When we’re in a relationship?? He said he only purchased a 1 month membership because my picture came up in an advertisement. Then said he closed his account after the 1 month membership ran out and never conversed with anyone.
But one day, I noticed the account showing up on his phone, and I clicked on it. Which he said he had no problem with at that moment. And sure enough, I found out he had been conversing with someone else back in December. This is around the time that our relationship became terribly strained; he became c**ky, called me less, I saw him less..he grew less & less invested in our relationship. Once I discovered this on his phone & confronted him about the person he chatted with online, he said it was none of my business?? Are you kidding me? I’m his girlfriend! So we broke up, then got back together, which lasted all of 4 days, and broke up again.
I texted him to ask if this was truly what he wanted. And if so, I will date other people. Because I am not standing by on the sidelines if he’s seeing other women behind my back. He was angry at the mere thought of me accepting dates from other suitors. After much arguing we decided to wipe the slate clean and try again. We spoke on the phone when I was out of town 2 weeks ago. Everything appeared to be fine; until last Saturday. I spoke with him early Saturday morning and he said he would call me later after his job-related in-service had finished. I haven’t heard from him since..that was a week and a half ago! He won’t answer my calls, my texts…he’s ghosting me. I think it’s a horrible thing to do to someone that you’re in a relationship with. And what makes it worse, we’re in our late forties.
He is recently divorced and going through a mid-life crisis. Bought a red sports car, got contacts and suddenly thinks he’s God’s gift to women! But he’s not! He’s even balding and has false teeth! He did cheat on his wife, not with me, but he was at least honest about that. But once a cheater always a cheater! And ladies, I’m trying to tell you right now, he has become the biggest player and no telling how many women he’s currently dating! I’m lucky I didn’t catch anything, no telling how many women he has been screwing! Beware of this man..he is a coward in every sense of the word!