JESS have a way of eating away at your belief system and self-esteem. She will find ways to make you do things that you don’t necessarily want to do and before you know it, you lose your sense of identity, your personal priorities and your ability to see the reality of the situation. The world all of a sudden becomes centered around her needs and her priorities.JESS only focused on her needs, leaving your needs in the dust. You are left disappointed and unfulfilled. Further, she zap your energy by getting you to focus so much on her, that you have nothing left for yourself.JESS takes the joy out of everything. Your rosy outlook on life continues to get squashed with negativity. Before you know it, her negativity consumes you and you start looking at things with gray colored glasses yourself.